My Story
Hi! I’m Mei Li, a breakup coach dedicated to helping you recover from your breakup so that you can find healthy love.
I started breakup coaching after years of struggling through my own heartbreaks. Even when the relationship was bad, the end of it would leave me anxious and depressed. My work, health, finances, and friendships would suffer.
While therapy helped me understand the underlying attachment wounds, it didn’t break my patterns. It wasn’t until overcoming a particularly painful breakup that I put together the therapeutic, spiritual, and science-backed processes that transformed my life.
Since then, I’ve helped the brokenhearted gain breakthroughs–without spending years in therapy. Here are some ways I might be able to help.
Want to get over your ex but can’t seem to stop missing them no matter what? I’ll help you get the closure you need so you can finally move on.
Struggling with depression and anxiety? I’ll give you techniques to instantly feel free.
Stuck in toxic relationship patterns? I’ll heal the subconscious beliefs that are blocking you from healthy love.
I used to think maybe something was wrong with me that a breakup could shatter my world. Why did I feel so much pain and despair while other people were able to move on?
And then a wise friend said this:
“The pain you feel has less to do with your ex and more to do with your inner child.”
That insight was the first step on my path to healthy love. I started working with a coach to address the childhood beliefs, feelings, and needs that were playing themselves out in my relationships. As I healed this young, wounded part of my subconscious, I began to feel more connected to my authentic self.
I began Rebuild Connection to support you with the practices, steps and tools to rediscover this authentic version of yourself–the whole, worthy essence of who you were before culture, expectations, abandonment, shame or trauma set in. Your true essence does not chase love. Your true essence IS love.
I’m no guru with all the answers. I still have those days where I want external validation, compare and despair, and plot revenge fantasies about my exes.
But I am a lifelong learner. And my commitment is to serve you with the best of what I am living and learning so that you can experience the most expansive, deep, and lasting love of your life.